Momento Certo

A guy can sleep with someone and have no emotional connection whatsoever. If you want to be someone that he has a relationship with, you have to distinguish yourself and develop a connection.

Here’s why: a guy wants to feel at the time he has sex with you that he was the only one who could have done so. He wants to feel special and that he’s done something no other guy could have.

When he feels that with someone, he wants a relationship with them.

A guy wants to be able to look back and think to himself, ‘I did that.’ Not, ‘I was in the right place at the right time’.

In reality he’s going to try to sleep with you as soon as he can, but that’s not necessarily the best thing for building an emotional connection…

The part of him that is looking for a relationship doesn’t want you to say ‘yes’ yet.

While the animal part of his brain is doing everything it can to get you into bed, the other part of his brain that actually wants to turn this into something more is saying, ‘please don’t do this, you’re going to mess this whole thing up if you listen to this other part of my brain!’.

On the other side of the coin, if you wait too long he’s going to feel like he’s not important to you sexually, and as men validate themselves through sex, you’ll ruin your chances with him.

Remember: having sex validates a man and makes him feel wanted.

In order to progress to a relationship we need to reach an ’emotional hook-point’, which is why you probably shouldn’t have sex with a guy on a first date.

It can take a number of experiences with a guy to reach this point.

With that said, if you do want to move things forward quicker, you can justify it by saying things like, ‘I can’t believe I’m telling you this…’ or ‘I never get to know people this quickly…’, because this communicates to him that your experience together is something different to the norm.

It makes your interaction unique, and so it will feel natural to progress quickly. You must ensure he feels your connection is unique, or you risk triggering his biggest insecurity – that someone else could have got you.

What if you’re stuck in the friend zone and can’t find a way to build chemistry?

It isn’t enough to simply be in rapport with a guy. Intimacy is born from chemistry. In month one of my online programme I have a 15-minute video that is often said to be ‘the most hard-hitting module of the entire programme’. It’s so easy to fall into the dreaded ‘friend zone’. In this video you’ll find out not only how to avoid it forever, but how to turn an existing friend into something more.