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Let’s say you’ve got a guy who never listens. Most women make the mistake of telling such a guy he’s a bad listener. What you may not realise is that by doing this you put a stamp on his head that says ‘you’re a bad listener’.

How much incentive do you think he then has to change that?

Most guys recognise that it’s so hard to change a label that you’ve given him, that it’s not worth the trouble. Most likely he won’t even try.

Here’s how to get him to become a better listener…

Instead of telling him he’s a bad listener, the first time he listens well for the space of FIVE SECONDS, you say, “I love talking to you about this stuff.”

In doing so, he begins to associate all of these good feelings with being a man.

If you want to make it appeal to his masculine side even more, you say, “it makes me feel safe to talk to you about this. I feel protected in talking to you about this. You make me feel great in talking to you about this. I love how you listen to me.”

Now you’re making him feel uniquely special for being the one person that you can tell things to.

What a guy doesn’t like is the idea that he’s the tenth person who has heard something that day, and that he was just the next set of ears.

When he hears that he’s somehow special, he feels like a man when he’s listening. What a powerful association to set up!

Using language like this changes things…

If you want to ‘pre-frame’ a behaviour before a relationship, you can say to a guy something to the effect of, “I love it when guys wear fitted white shirts.” In doing this you’ll see fitted white shirts crop up a hell of a lot.

By doing this you can literally set up what you want a relationship to be by talking about the things you love.

To begin in the early stages you don’t say, “I love it when YOU”, you say “I love it when guys…”

When you’re in a relationship, for god-sake don’t say “I love it when GUYS” – “I love it when you…”

Do you ever find yourself feeling jealous around guys? Get access to the full video, “The Male Mind” and learn how to apply this technique to stamp out any feelings of jealousy the moment they come up. This stuff is powerful and could get out of control in the wrong hands. I’m a little reluctant about sharing it…